you were wrong about me. you always were.

my entire life, i was punished. i was told that i was disrespectful. i was told that i needed to be better. i was made to think that i needed to change, over and over again.

i was made to believe that i was, fundamentally, not capable of love.

now, i know this. this is a lie. it always was. and it is a lie told by the members of this world that don’t see the light within themselves.

because no, you are wrong about me. i am not selfish. i am not arrogant. i am not mean. i am not rude. thank god now, i can see, finally, that these were things you were scared to be true of yourself.

here is the truth about me. really, it’s the truth about all of us. you too, and let me tell you this, trying to convince me (or anyone) that they are any of the things (mean, selfish, arrogant, resentful, spiteful, bad, broken, flawed, sick) will not help you. these lies will not help. it will only push you farther away from yourself, and you are not someone who deserves to be run from.

the truth is that i am selfless. i am kind. i am intelligent. i am beautiful. i am capable. i am worthy. i am loving.

and, most importantly, i am loved deeply, entirely, unconditionally, holistically, by everyone in my life. i always have been. you have been, too, and i’m sorry you don’t believe me yet.

a single piece of advice that will set you free:

when you feel like you should stop doing something, stop doing it. immediately. don’t hesitate. don’t think. just stop it.

the reason this liberates is that when something nags at us, it doesn’t stop. when you’re wondering if you should end a relationship, when you’re wondering if you’re drinking too much, your fate has already been sealed. the moment this thought appears, whether you like it or not, you will stop, eventually. the relationship will end. the addiction will cease. you know it will, and holding on will only postpone the inevitable and cause you worlds of suffering in the process.

please, stop spending your time lying. stop spending your time in places you hate, stop spending time in careers you despite, stop taking classes you’re dreading. it’s pointless. it’s useless. and you will, one day, wake up and realize that the entire thing was a mistake. all your work was for nothing, and you knew it would be.

something was nagging at you, something was telling you to stop from day one. but you refused to listen.

when you follow this advice, your life will change. it will open. it’s not that when one door closes, another open. it’s when you choose to allow a door to close (because when it starts to close, it will close, no matter how hard you pull on the knob) numerous doors will open. more than you can count. just sit back, release control, let it happen.

there are doors opening all around you. you’ll miss them if you spend your life foolishly preventing doors from closing,

doors that need closing.

time to make a choice, now.

time to go out there and get started.

time to end. time to start over. time to let go.

time to, really, not do anything. time to stop doing, so that you can make space for the universe to provide you with exactly

exactly

what you want most.